Divorce And Children..Men, Be Careful!
In more cases than not, when women and men divorce, women tend to end up with the majority of the rights and men get the short end of the stick. Unless the mother is completely unable to care for her children or was abusive, she will end up with the children and collect child support and/or alimony from the ex-husband. Unfortunately, when there are children involved things can get incredibly complicated and it’s critically important not to allow those children to become weapons used to the detriment of either spouse. Otherwise, the damage done to the relationship with the children can be irreparable.
There are some startling statistics that pertain to the children after women and men divorce. For instance, 63% of youth suicides are from home without a father and 90% of runaways are from homes where there is no father figure. Three fourths of all adolescents in drug rehabilitation centers are from fatherless homes. There are a number of other staggering and unsettling statistics that are similar to these and they are all real studies done by very credible sources. Men need to listen closely and find ways to avoid these tragedies.
Unfortunately, the rate at which women and men divorce in this country has increased steadily over the years. If there are children involved, it’s crucial that both the husband and wife do everything in their power to strengthen the marriage before letting it end bitterly. If saving the marriage is completely out of the question, it is absolutely essential that both parties agree to be civil to one another in front of and for the sake of the children. The father must maintain and fight to have an extremely active role in the children’s lives. The judge will certainly allow this and enforce it unless the man has been abusive. Men need to understand that there’s a pretty strong correlation between serious social issues in children and whether or not their father was around to give them proper guidance and affection. Both parents should make sure that the children do not think ill of either parent because it becomes a reflection of themselves and this could pull their esteem down.
