The KVLT Relationship Blog

When a couple decides to get married, they see so much hope for a bright and loving future.  Everything is happy and thrilling and wonderful and amazing.  Sadly, not all relationships are destined for a happily-ever-after.  Today, more than half of all marriages end in divorce.  But, if you are willing to work at it, there are a number of ways to not only try to avoid the breakup of your marriage, but strengthen it.  One solution that most married couple try when attempting to save their relationship is to go through marriage counseling. So what is marriage counseling?  During marriage counseling, a counselor or therapist works with a couple to try to work out and resolve any issues affecting their marriage.  These professional counselors and therapists work hard to flush out the underlying cause of the couple’s problem and help them find a workable solution.

During counseling, the couple is encouraged to talk about their relationship status.  Each side must do this since both parties may not perceive the relationship the same way.  How one person views the status of their relationship may not be the same as how the other sees it.

Another common question during counseling revolves around any children in the marriage.  How should the parents handle the situation with their kids?  Discussing the welfare of the children is a top priority especially if they have not yet reached the age of majority to decide for themselves.

Other questions that might be discussed would be regarding marital goals. It is very important for the counselor to ask the couple what they wanted from their counseling session. What result would they like to see?  

Marriage counseling can be a great help to the couple whose marriage is on the brink of separation.  By talking with a qualified counselor, a couple can hopefully work through their marital issues and come through on the other side a stronger, happier couple.

Marriage And Relationship Tips

Every cheater gets caught sooner or later. Only superheroes like me never get caught and you also can learn how to be one. The first thing you have to do is take a map of the city you live in. Now start to check all the places people are familiar with you with a red pen. These places are for the “faithful” you. The “unfaithful” you will never visit these places. Now you can start the exploration phase but before that you must redesign your weekly schedule.

There are 5 week days on the calendar. 2 days are spared for weekend holidays. We can take this as a template. Pick 2 week days and free them of all the business or personal deeds and fill them with imaginary business meetings, lunches and late night city tours with clients. These two days must change every week. Start the exploration on your free nights. Go to the parts of city where nobody knows you. Find good places to eat and have fun, clean small hotels to spend the nights in. Mark these places with a green pencil. Open an account from a bank you never worked with before and start to deposit money gradually. Also apply for a credit card from this bank. Get a post box or use your new houses address for the new bank account and credit card. Get a second phone and a new phone number. If you can’t afford a second house try to find a cheap storage. You will change your clothes and turn into your superhero identity in this storage. Lastly write a story for your second persona. Find him a job and find the reason why he doesn’t have a house if he really doesn’t have one. The two personas must have nothing in common and no connections.

Once your second persona is alive and kicking, it is time to find your secondary soul mates. You can act like you are single. However I don’t recommend that. There are discreet web sites for married dating. If you use these sites you won’t have to lie to your lover.

One thing that you should be aware of if your not already is that attraction is not a choice. This piece of dating advice was popularised by david deangelo. You or the girl you are trying to seduce has no conscious ability to be attracted to you.

They also have no way of being UN-attracted to you. 

Once they get struck with the love but they’ll be attracted to you for some time. So how do you create attraction in women knowing that SOME of them wont care much for you even if you do everything right? 

Well you pick your battles…

Sometimes you will pick wrong but the pick up artists know which women to choose and which to leave. Many guys will spend weeks trying to get the attention of a girl that couldn’t care less about him.

He is infatuated with this women and she doesn’t even know his name… major fail.

Some times it’s best just to accept that she is never going to love you… because she is just not that attracted to you. 

Now what about the girls that ARE into you?  Sometimes it can be hard to pick which ones are into you… Reading up on the 21 signs of female interest www.pullingladies.com will help

Well know that you have chosen the right girl to seduce your chances of success skyrocket. She is already open to your advance and certainly wont go rejecting you. 

Pick your battles and talk to women that you believe are already into you because attraction is not a choice. Rather than getting angry at women that reject you realise that a little bit of flirting across the room can go a long way towards increasing the chances of meeting someone that’s into you.

In today’s world, you can find everything online: you can order your groceries, a pair of shoes and a job all from the World Wide Web. So it would make perfect sense that you can also find a mate in the very same fashion!Some are a little skittish about online dating though it has become so popular that people of all ages and walks of life are now doing online dating. It is not “just” for the young or for people who love computers. Often as we get older, our social circles close in on us: online dating is an excellent way to widen it out a bit and meet some people with similar interests and preferences.Just be yourself. Mom was totally right when she said this and we’ll tell you why: when you put on an act to be someone else the person you are with forms an entirely different picture about who you are. This means that if they are attracted to you, then they are actually attracted to someone else. You want them to like you for you! So show your date exactly who you are: chances are they’ll like what they see.Put your best foot forward. There is a difference between showing someone who you are and scratching where it itches in public! Take this opportunity to show your date your sunny side and your best features. If you have a great sense of humor have a couple of jokes planned. If you are known for something else your strong listening skills or charm: then share this with your date.They have sweaty palms too! We’ll let you in on a little secret: everyone is nervous on a date. This is true whether or not you see them acting nervous or not. Some people just hide this better. So have some compassion if your date is laughing a little too hard or fidgeting in their seat. They’re just having a case of first date jitters like you are too. There is a benefit to remembering this tip you tend to calm down a bit yourself.Everyone has baggage: leave yours outside for now. We all have something that we pull around with us. It may be a divorce, credit card debt or a college degree we are still completing. Everyone has something they consider their “baggage.” Sometimes it is a big deal and other times it really isn’t. Most of the time what matters is how much of a positive attitude you have about the situation and how much effort you are using to change or act in the circumstance.You usually can’t change the fact that you have been divorced (unless you re-marry the person) though you can refrain from making negative comments about them or telling endless stories about why your marriage was a failure.Be clear about what you are looking for. The “dating game” can be a real challenge. Part of this is because it truly isn’t an even playing field. You may be looking for a serious relationship and others are just looking for companionship or a little fun. Be clear and upfront about what you want from the start without getting into what hair color you hope your kids are going to have.Use a light touch when telling someone what you are looking for and put yourself in their shoes. If you are not looking for a serious relationship, then you’d probably want to know this ahead of time also. Remember that although someone may say one thing they also can change their mind as a relationship progresses.